(Understandings from Swami Mitrananda’s talk to Yuva Veers of Youth Empowerment Program 6thbatch)
Sura mandira taru moola nivasah, shaiya bhootala majinam vaasah
Sarva parigrah bhoga tyaagah, kasya sukham na karoti viragah || 18 ||
Meaning: Sheltering in some temple, sleeping on the naked ground wearing a deer skin (representing a renunciate), thus renouncing all ideas of possession. Such an individual of dispassion, how else would he be other than being happy?
The above verse was given by Sureshvaracharya.
Bhartrahari, a king like Buddha who renounced everything to seek Self-Realisation, mentions in his text called ‘Vairagya Shatakam’ that a person who is free from all fears is the one who is established in Vairagya (Dispassion / Detachment). If we are attached to something, there is a fear of losing it. A person who is not attached to anything is the one who is totally fearless. Fearlessness sets a person free. When a person has detached from everything in this world, he has got nothing to lose, nothing to worry about.
In our mind, we own many things. It is this ownership feeling that can cause a fear of loss. We may have many things and we can still be happy provided we don’t possess it. When we have something, we are not holding on to it. We can let it go any time. But when we possess, we are not willing to let go. We are in constant fear of losing something that we possess. There is nothing wrong in earning wealth or having a lot of friends, as long as we can remain happy even if they are gone. How many things in life are we possessive of? Husband/wife, children, wealth, etc. We are even possessive of silly things like ‘my chair in my office’, ‘my house’, ‘my pen’, ‘front seat in the car’, etc. How much pain do we experience when we have to let go some of our possessions. Think!
Mothers are the back bones of Indian families. They play multiple roles in order to serve each person in the family. She is the one who has to take care of the children, her husband, her household work, office work, etc. Her whole life she spends sacrificing her wants in front of her family members’ wants. After living a life like that, when a mother gets her only daughter married, truly speaking she is free from a major responsibility. But how many of such mothers can really stay happy and start doing something for themselves? Once the daughter is gone, she is concerned about the daughter’s wellbeing in the new house. Later she’s worried during her daughter’s pregnancy. And after that looking after her grandchild. When does she finally relieve herself off the duties and be free? Where is the point when she says, ‘Enough’? What is stopping her from doing it?
It’s not just people that we are attached to, but we are even trapped in our own conditionings of possessions. We are ‘possessed’ by wrong notions. We have a notion of everything. When we talk about meditation or Self-Realisation, different people have different thinking. Some think that some kind of light appears in deep meditation and that is Self-Realisation. Some people have some images of Gods coming to their minds, thinking that that is God Realisation. Unless we are ready to DROP these conditionings, we cannot progress.
If the ‘Ownership feeling’ in the mind can be transcended, then happiness is 100% guaranteed.