– Understandings from Swami Swaroopanandaji’s talk for Youth Empowerment Programme – 6th batch
Souraj dhiraj tehi rath chaaka,
Satyaseel dhruda dhwaja pataka
Bal bibek dam parahit khore
Chama krupa samata raju jore
Self-control and Concern for others are the other two horses of the chariot
Self-control is a scary word for many. It looks like a word which says ‘No’ to all the pleasures. It is definitely not like that. Self-control can be understood as Self-management – the way we manage ourselves. All our five sense organs run wild behind the objects of the world. A walk in the shopping malls, or by the restaurants, listening to the latest musical hits, etc are indeed tempting situations in our lives. Self-control does not mean we should not enjoy any of these, rather it means, how well-managed we are on our own senses. When we see dresses displayed in a shopping mall, are we able to stop ourselves to fall for it when we don’t require it at the moment? Does the thought of tasty food take away all the other thoughts from our mind? Do we keep our TV always tuned to the channels that we cannot resist? These are the kind of questions we need to ask ourselves. If the answer is ‘Yes’ to a question, then we are not able to manage ourselves. We are a prey to our sense organs and to our mind.
What is the problem if we don’t have sense-control? People who don’t control themselves look so happy in life. A man bought a dog to guard his house. The dog was very strong and of a good breed. Its one bark would scare off anybody. But there was a problem with the dog. It would not listen to anyone, not even its master. In fact, the dog behaved like the master and the master behaved like its slave. When others look at the dog, they might appreciate it for its beauty and strength. But for the master, it is useful or a pain? The people who keep no self-control over themselves only look happier than others. But, truly speaking, they are a slave to their minds. They do not have a freedom from their own mind. Swami Chinmayananda used to say, ‘Not to do what you feel like doing is true freedom.’
We usually think freedom in terms of ‘freedom of expression’, ‘freedom of life-style’, ‘freedom of thought’, etc. But are we really FREE…from our own Mind? Are we not a slave to our mind? How many times we fall for temptations (the word is rightly used – FALL for temptation)? Falling for temptations is truly a fall which we mistakenly think as freedom of choice.
Can a company run well if there are no rules & regulations in it? Why do we have traffic rules or laws governing a nation? Can we have a safe and happy life if there are no systems to oversee? Our society, our company, etc have such rules for their well-being. Shouldn’t we have such controlling systems for our well-being?
A man of self-control can always take best decisions at any situations because his judgment is not biased based on his likes and dislikes. He takes a decision that is good for him and his surroundings even if it means sacrificing his own desires. People respect such masters who live like real Men and not like animals who fall for instincts.
No matter how successful one becomes, one should have concern for others. There are some people who have concern for others till they gain power or a particular position. Such people can never be true leaders nor will their power last for a long time. Concern for others is the sign of a good leader. Shri Ramji was concerned even about his enemies. After killing Ravana, Rama asked Vibheeshana to do the final rites of Ravana’s body in the proper manner & respects that a king deserves.
The growth of a person is seen not only in how much he grows as an individual, but also in the number of people he’s able to support in their well-being and upliftment. Whatever we have, money, power, intellect, are all gifts from God. We have been provided with them so that we can use it in the right way to be an instrument in helping others.
Thus, Lord Rama says, strength, discrimination, self-control & concern for others are the four horses of the chariot of success that he possesses.